Promoting Neurodiversity Harmony During Holiday Gatherings 🌈
The holiday season is a time for joy and togetherness, but it can also present opportunities to foster neurodiversity acceptance. While you never owe anyone an explanation, sharing simple insights can create a more inclusive environment for your autistic or neurodivergent child.
Here are some scripts to gracefully navigate holiday gatherings, ensuring a supportive space for your child to be their authentic selves:
Navigating Holiday Meals:
When family members encourage typical holiday foods:
"The turkey looks delicious, but Henry is really into chicken nuggets right now. We brought extra to share if anyone's interested."
Accommodations during meals:
"Henry would love to join the conversation at the table, but the sounds can be overwhelming. He'll wear his headphones to enjoy our meal together."
Navigating Communication Differences:
Supporting special interests:
"Henry has been fascinated by astronomy lately. He'd love to share his knowledge with you."
When family members speak about your child in front of them:
"While Henry may not feel like chatting today, he understands everything being said. Let's respect his comfort."
Navigating Social Expectations:
If you need to leave early:
"Henry had a great time, but he's ready for some quiet time now. We'll be heading home."
When cousins want your child to join in play:
"Henry brought Legos to share. Feel free to join him if you'd like."
When turning down a holiday invitation:
"Henry loves you all but isn't comfortable with big crowds. How about joining us for a more intimate gathering?"
Navigating Sensory Needs:
When family members expect toys to be put away:
"That fidget is a sensory tool for Henry, helping him regulate. It lets him participate comfortably."
No need to apologise for attire choices:
"Henry chose his dinosaur pajamas today. Feel free to ask him about his favorite dinosaurs."
If family members ask your child to stop stimming:
"Henry stims to regulate his body. As long as he's safe, we're happy to let him continue."
Use these scripts at your discretion, advocating for your child and spreading a message of neurodiversity affirmation. Remember, it's your comfort and your child's well-being that matters most.